Udaipur: A Dream in Every Detail

I recently returned from Udaipur, and even now, the city’s magic feels like it’s lingering in my heart. Known as the City of Lakes, Udaipur is a harmonious blend of romance, culture, and history. Its beauty unfolds slowly, like a story you don’t want to end. From tranquil lakes to grand palaces, from delicious food to enchanting music, Udaipur is a symphony of unforgettable experiences.

Adding to this unforgettable journey was a meeting with Maharaj Kumar Sahib Dr. Lakshyaraj Singh Ji Mewar of Udaipur. A gracious host and a remarkable individual, Lakshyaraj Ji welcomed us warmly, and our conversations spanned a range of meaningful topics—from family enterprises to philanthropy, from education in schools to advancing gender equality. For our next generation, it was a unique opportunity to meet and connect with the 77th generation scion of the Mewar dynasty—a living symbol of Udaipur’s rich history and legacy.

A Cup of Chai Under the Moonlight

One of my most cherished memories is of sipping chai by the lake. Now, you should know I’m quite picky when it comes to tea made outside. But in Udaipur? Every cup was perfection—smooth, comforting, and made exactly how I like it (after a few instructions, of course). Imagine this: a warm cup in hand, the moonlight shimmering on the water, and majestic palaces standing tall around you. It wasn’t just tea—it was pure magic.

The moon itself was a star of the trip. Every night, it rose over the city with an effortless grace, lighting up the clear skies and reflecting off the tranquil lakes below. Its beauty was almost hypnotic, making every evening feel like an ode to quiet wonder.

And then there were the flowers. Bright, vibrant, and blooming everywhere, they added splashes of color to every corner of the city. Whether cascading over walls or lining pathways, their beauty was a reminder of nature’s quiet ability to charm.

Sunsets, Reflections, and Palaces

If Udaipur’s nights are enchanting, its evenings are nothing short of breathtaking. The sunsets here are some of the most stunning I’ve ever seen. The sky transforms into a canvas of gold, orange, and pink, casting its hues over the city and its lakes. Watching the sun dip behind the Aravalli Hills, with its colors spilling across the water, was a sight I’ll never forget.

And then there are the palaces—grandeur personified. Built centuries ago, without the technology or machinery we rely on today, these architectural marvels are stories etched in stone. The intricate carvings, the sprawling courtyards, the attention to every detail—each palace whispers tales of royalty and vision.

The lakes, too, play their part. They don’t just surround the palaces—they become a part of their beauty. Whether in the soft glow of morning, the blazing light of day, or the fading hues of sunset, the lakes reflect the palaces in a way that feels like a work of art in constant motion.

Savoring the Flavors of Udaipur

Food in Udaipur is an adventure in itself, and for someone with a Marwari palate, it was an absolute delight. From ghee-rich daal baati churma to flavorful kair sangri, lehsan ki sabzi, and even papad ki sabzi, every meal felt like a warm embrace of tradition.

And yet, even something as simple as Maggi became special here. On a cool day, steaming noodles, I found joy in the simplicity of the moment.

Sukhadia Circle, with its small shops serving everything from chaat to sweets, was another highlight. And for fine dining with a view, places like Amrai and Darikhana at Jag Mandir combined delicious food with unforgettable settings. Eating by the lake, with palaces glowing in the distance, is an experience that elevates every bite.

Rajasthan in Rhythm

Udaipur’s cultural heartbeat comes alive in its folk dances and music. Watching Ghoomar, with its flowing skirts and graceful circles, is an unforgettable sight. The vibrant costumes and rhythmic movements create a spellbinding visual treat.

Dhola Maaru, a hauntingly beautiful ballad of love, struck a deep chord. Even without understanding every word, the melody felt universal, carrying emotions that transcend language.

What made these performances even more magical was the setting. Whether by a tranquil lakeside or within the historic courtyards of a palace, the atmosphere added layers of depth to every note and movement. It wasn’t just entertainment—it was immersion into Rajasthan’s living traditions.

Lakes and Legacy

The man-made lakes of Udaipur are a marvel of both beauty and ingenuity. Built centuries ago to meet the water needs of this arid city, they are lifelines disguised as romance. Whether it’s the iconic Lake Pichola, with its serene waters mirroring the palaces, or the picturesque Fateh Sagar Lake, framed by rolling hills, each one adds to Udaipur’s timeless allure.

The museums in Udaipur are equally captivating. The City Palace Museum offers an intimate glimpse into the lives of the maharajas, with its intricate designs and rich history. The Vintage Car Museum is a treasure trove of rare automobiles, each one telling its own story of elegance and style. And the Crystal Gallery? It’s beyond words—chandeliers and artifacts so exquisite they feel almost otherworldly.

A City That Stays with You

Udaipur isn’t just a place you visit; it’s a place you feel. Its lakes, palaces, food, and music weave a story that stays with you long after you leave. Meeting Lakshyaraj Ji added another layer to this journey—a chance to connect with the legacy of the Mewar dynasty and reflect on the values that continue to shape this historic city.

As I left, I realized that Udaipur isn’t just a destination—it’s a reminder of how deeply art, culture, and history can touch our lives.

India’s cherished “joint families” system is under threat. What can be done to preserve its values?

 This article was originally published in Family Capital, January 24, 2024;

https://www.famcap.com/2024/01/indias-cherished-joint-families-system-is-under-threat-what-can-be-done-to-preserve-its-values/

In India's business world, the Marwari community is a formidable force. A part of its success is often attributed to the system of “joint families", which has created many great business dynasties. But the system is in decline, leading to concerns that its advantages may be irreplaceable and thus pose challenges to the business dominance of communities like the Marwaris.

The “joint families” concept is based on the idea of living together of and shared business responsibilities among grandfather, father, sons, their sons, and other family members or close relatives.

Marwaris, which originally come from Marwar, a region of western Rajasthan state- has given rise to great family business dynasties such as the Birlas, the Mittals, and the Agarwals.

The resources created by joint families, including the pooling of financial resources, collective decision-making, and shared responsibilities, have provided a robust foundation for entrepreneurship in India.

The joint family system facilitated a collaborative approach to business, where the collective wisdom of the family contributed to strategic decision-making and sustainable growth.

Assessing the impact of joint family disintegration on businesses remains elusive and largely anecdotal. Hence, there is a pressing need to investigate the mechanisms that fostered familial cohesion and identifying critical factors that facilitated harmonious coexistence among family members.

By gaining insights into these dynamics, contemporary families may incorporate pertinent traits to preserve the advantages of a diversified resource pool while upholding individuality and freedom.

Basant Hetamsaria, the head of the Hetamsaria family, shares a compelling narrative of the organic evolution of their joint family in Ramgarh, in the state of Jharkhand. From a small family of three, the family expanded to 30 members across four generations, diversifying economic pursuits while remaining tightly united. His unexpected role as the family head at a young age underscores the indispensable need for a universal head.

"In the familial framework, I emphasize the pivotal role of a universal head—a unifying force offering direction and leadership, even within collective decision-making. The essence of prudence, fairness, and transparency in our decision-making cannot be overstated. We must strike a delicate balance between authority and respect, endorsing an informal code of conduct that nurtures mutual respect and consideration among us, the family members," says Basant.

The challenges of decision imposition and the necessity for transparency underscore the importance of a unified approach within joint families. “Every adult and youth in the family must have a voice, preventing unnecessary controversies and promoting a harmonious environment. Furthermore, ensuring suitable opportunities for education and employment aligned with individual abilities is crucial for the collective well-being of the joint family,” says Basant.

Strong family values, including familiarity, love, affection, harmony, and cooperation, are essential for the success of joint families. Basant's insights highlight the need for an adaptable family dynamic that can navigate changing environments, ensuring the continued relevance and resilience of joint families.

However, the disintegration of joint families, which was considered one of the strengths of business families in India, poses certain challenges for contemporary business families, such as communication and bonding. Despite the array of communication tools available, such as instant phone calls, WhatsApp, and emails, the absence of physical proximity can lead to communication and personal challenges.

Face-to-face interactions in joint families foster a deeper understanding of individual strengths, preferences, and challenges, which is often difficult to achieve through virtual means. The nuances of non-verbal communication and the daily interactions that build personal bonds are diminished when family members are geographically dispersed.

“In today's era, the concept of joint families may be considered unconventional, and a more open and liberal model should be explored as a potential sustainable family solution amidst the challenges of modern relationships, increasing tensions, growing distances between spouses, and fractured relationships,” says Basant.

Perhaps, establishing a structured leadership model within the family, designating a family leader who plays a pivotal role in providing direction, fostering transparency, and ensuring fair decision-making would help the business families, despite not being in a joint family system.

This leader should embody the qualities of prudence, fairness, and transparency, striking a delicate balance between authority and respect. This structured approach would help maintain a cohesive family unit and facilitates effective decision-making.

Similarly, a culture of collaborative decision-making where the opinions and perspectives of every family member, both adults and youth, are valued, should be encouraged.

Families should develop a framework that ensures active participation from all members, preventing unnecessary controversies and promoting a harmonious environment. By integrating diverse viewpoints, families can tap into the collective wisdom of individual talents, similar to the collaborative approach seen in joint family systems.

The success of many business families that were joint families, lies in their unique ability to create a rich resources basket, fostering collaboration, and providing a robust foundation for entrepreneurial endeavours.

Basant Hetamsaria's insights underscore the importance of a universal head, prudence, fairness, transparency, and commitment in maintaining the resilience of joint families.

Despite the challenges posed by modernity and the disintegration of joint families, its principles continue to be of relevance. It offers valuable lessons for contemporary business families. Incorporating what joint families offered in a modern setting would retain entrepreneuring families and their rich resources basket.